Apache

by Apache
(VA)

Am taking care of elderly mother with dementia. Sister has cancer and has been through several chemotherapy treatments and I don't feel like I can ask her to do much more than she does. She tries and does what she can but I really think she does not feel as well as she pretends, so I don't ask her for extras.


The constant repetition is what gets to me most. She will ask me 5 times within an hour what we are having for supper. She will ask me every half hour what day it is and if we have anything we have to do. I try to get her interested in things...TV (she can't understand what they are talking about), newspapers (she reads an article and can't understand it so I have to read it and explain it to her).

She does not remember that she ate breakfast, lunch or dinner...or what she ate. She calls me all day long...."Where are you?"....and I have to stop what I am doing to go answer her, if I yell from where I am, she doesn't hear me.

I feel so helpless to help her. She wants to cry all the time but depression medications with her heart medications are out of the question.
I feel like an entertainment director trying to keep her busy and happy.

I gave up my career, to take care of her rather than put her in a nursing home, and have no regrets about that. I just need someone to talk to every now and then and do not want to burden my friends. I guess God really does not give us more than we can handle and he created this website for me.

Thanks for listening.

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What else???
by: Apache

What else can happen? Took Mother to get her hair
done and lost her hearing aid in the parking lot. Called for them to check inside and they couldn't find it. Rain and storms overnight....went back next morning and found it in parking lot. Still works? Lord is with me.

Took Kitty to vet today and found out he has diabetes. Going to have to give 2 shots of insulin each day and check glucose levels.
Went upstairs after having taken Kitty and there was a bird in my bedroom. Mother must have left the door open while I was gone and the bird got in. Took me a half hour to usher the bird out of the house.

Help me get a good nights sleep, no telling what will happen tomorrow.

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Anytime
by: Christine

My mom doesn't suffer from dementia, but she's had two strokes and not everything registers correctly with her. You can speak to me anytime you wish. Best wishes.

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