I have been the caregiver for my father and his wife(who is not my biological mother). I also work full time, they refuse to move close to the family and refuse to have any assistance from a home health aide.
I attempt to visit two-three times per week and I dread it. They ask about my next day off only to have their errands ran.
My fathers wife is passive aggressive and attempts to make my visits longer by thinking up things that need to be done when I am about to leave.
They don't understand that I have a life and I don't mind helping them but I feel like they are taking advantage of my kindness and that I am supposed to devote my entire life to caring for them.
I dread when I have to visit and it shouldn't be that way. Sometimes I just want to be left alone.