Angry mother

by William
(Festus MO)

My mother has always been a angry person. Now that dad passed away 8 years ago. She acts like a big child.She is 73. And her and her family always fought. She punched me in my back Xmas because she got mad at my sister.

As a adult I feel I don’t need to put up with that. I have my own family issues. And I feel my mother shouldn’t treat me that way. When I have been there since dad passed. Maybe not enough like she would like. I also work and want to retire in 10 years. She is mean and hateful. I don’t like to fight and argue.

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My angry mother
by: William

I want to thank everyone for there comments.
It was a stressful 7 years with her since dad past.
And you all made me feel a lot better!

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I agree
by: Anonymous

You don't have to be abused like that, and IMO that's all that your mother's behavior amounts to - abuse.

Tell her you're not going to tolerate that anymore and if she intends to continue that then you intend to let her be by herself. And then don't communicate with her for at least a few days and see what happens.

If she's like my 88-Y-O brat of a mom she well may decide she can handle everything herself. And if she does then let her. I know, I know, easier said than done because you apparently have a good heart and love your mom like I do, but your family and your sanity aren't worth it. Hugs for you.

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stand your ground
by: greenacres

No one should be treated like the way you describe. ESPECIALLY if you are the caregiver. Run away and head for the hills!! I wouldn't judge you, but I really believe there is a way to communicate with WORDS.

Only I think that a person can be just as hateful with words. If you feel you are being abused, you are. DO NOT put up with it!

All you should be worried about is your own family, they need you. As long as she can take care of herself, do not feel bad, guilty, hateful, or whatever. You don't deserve abuse. Let her be.
She sounds toxic to your sanity.

It's not a bad thing to take care of yourself. The stronger you are, the more you will feel it's the right thing to do for every one concerned. I am sure others will advise you. So take care and come back to let out your frustrations. We will be here for you.

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Boundaries are important
by: Anonymous

Make a boundary.

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Unacceptable
by: Anonymous

Your mother is only five years older than *I* am and I'm telling you, her behavior is unsupportable. Save yourself.

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