Angry Mom

by Craig
(Anaheim, CA)

My mother is 79 years old and my father is 82. They live in a senior apartment complex in Southern California. They sold their home in New Jersey and followed my wife and I out here over 12 years ago. My mother has always had some anger and resentment issues, but they were mild compared to what is going on now.

Every conversation I have with her turns into a tirade regarding a former friend, co-worker or family member from years past. In some cases these individuals passed away decades ago. I try to steer our conversations to more pleasant or topical issues, but nothing seems to work.

My father is a very laid back guy, but this is starting to wear on him. She complains about everyone and everything. Her eye doctor told her she has a mild case of Glaucoma. She thinks this is a conspiracy, and all doctors are out to get her. My wife works in an assisted/skilled nursing facility and is keenly aware of what is going on. We agree she is in an early stage of Dementia with short term memory loss.

Besides her, I am dealing with this by myself. My older brother lives near Philadelphia, and has not spoken with either of my parents for almost 18 years. I don't even discuss these issues with him, which is how we are able to get along.

My wife, myself and my father all agree this is becoming unbearable, and treatment is needed. The problem is, none of us know how to approach her without setting her off. Her temper has become more explosive with each passing year. She no longer has friends or daily activities. She just sits and watches TV 24/7, sometimes never bothering to get dressed. Has anyone else had this experience, and can anyone offer any advice on how to approach her regarding a medical evaluation?