Angry Baby Sister!

by Baby Sister
(Oahu)

My mother has been ill for sometime now. But recently had to stay in rehabilitation due to pneumonia, and 2 strokes. She is now home but needs 24 hour care. She is either going through sun downers or beginning of dementia. Someone must be there for her. My sister and my husband has been taking care of her. I work full-time as well as my brother in law.


My mother's schedule of pills start from 0600 in the morning until 8pm, 12 to 16 pills a day. I didn't realize how hard and frustrating this is...and I despise my brother whom is well off financially and goes on all these trips while my sister and I are struggling.

Right now there is a feud between my sister and brother. They are not speaking and I am in the middle. I hate it. It just tares me to pieces. My husband is my rock, he takes better care of my mom than I do.

He is retired, my sister has been paid from my mother to take care of her...I feel that my husband should be paid as well. As for my brother he is retired good pension plan and working part time.

I really feel that he needs to come home and take care of her for a month just to give us time to our husbands and understand what we go through morning till night.

I go to work so tired because I am up with my mom at 2 am and I go to work before 5am....this is hard and I am stuck in the middle between 2 siblings not speaking...oh and here is the kicker...the doctor just told us my mom has 6 months to live...why can't we get along.

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