Angry and Used In Florida

by Cindy
(Florida)

My Dad is 84 and his wife is 91, I have never had a close relationship with my Dad and have barely spoken to him in 15 years. I have 2 sisters and one brother who live out of state, they came down to see them once or twice a year in the past while I was out of the picture.


Over the last 3 years I have been talked into getting involved with my parents by one of my sisters and brother.. Now I am taking care of them in my boyfriend's home that he has owned for 9 years. The parents were living in a dump at an assisted living facility, it was more like a dumpy motel room and I felt sorry for them as they are broke due to my Dads poor money decisions and their moving constantly.

I am a CNA with years of training and I was making very good money at it but hurt my back and haven't worked for 3 years. Now, I have them here with me for one week and they have totally taken over my home. I told them to make themselves at home and they just took the place over. They have no car, and I have to take them to ALL of their many appointments and whatever they need to do.

They pay $1,000 a month to live here, my Dad is a miser and won't chip in for gas, groceries, utilities, or food. He feels the money he pays is sufficient and I don't. They eat ALL the time, the utilities have sky rocketed and they want to be waited on hand and foot. I feel like I am a maid and slave to say the least.

I find myself cooking 3 meals a day, sometimes before 11 am and I am sick of it already. I was cooking dinner the other night and my Dad says "How ya doing Slave".. I am not fine with this.. I had to spend almost $1,000 to make the place safe for the elderly and my Dad said he would pay me back but hasn't paid me all of it back yet.

He recently agreed to split the grocery bill but hasn't done that yet either. We went to the market the other day and he paid for nothing. I want them out of here and would like to know where I can get them in as they only have an income of 3k a month, supposedly.

I am in need of help and I would like to know if anyone can help me as this is just the tip of the iceberg.

Oh and my siblings can't/won't help me.. They just said I told you so! I won't be getting any help from them as they can't afford to help and they really can't stand either one of the parents!

Thank you,
Miserable in Fla.

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