Angry and Bad Tempered Mum
by Jackie N
(Slough, Berkshire UK)
Mum is getting increasingly angry and bad tempered all the time at myself and my brother - we are 54 and 53 respectively and she is nearly 80.
My brother tries to help by doing shopping for her, helping her with daily tasks and helped so that all her bills could go through her bank account rather than her trying to remember which bill had been paid and which had not been paid.
This is because he has been out of work for about two years and is looking for a job. I work and have a family of my own and try to help when I can. She forgets what she already has in her cupboards and fridges and finds it difficult to cope with chores around the house. All I can do is listen to her, but it is very difficult.
For a long time now she telephones quite a bit - at least 4 times a day if she wants to chat, which is fair enough. However, when she gets agitated she blocks up our answering machines, often making up to 30 telephone calls. She has started to swear and curse and in my brother's case she has hit him.
I am really worried about this, especially as she will not go to the doctor for help. I have suggested it and had a chat with my local GP, but they have said they cannot go to her - she has to go to them. I have to make her realise that she needs help but when I told her this she blew her top at me, saying it's me (because I attend a church).