Anger, Resentment being Stuck with Elderly Parents

by Anonymous

I always remember how happy I was the night before my wedding because I'm finally free from my mom. Unfortunately, It was short-lived. I am 57 but my mom has lived with me for 54 years. She was separated from my dad but now they are together and their retirement plan is me and my husband. I also have relatives lived with me for a few years to help them out.


My family sacrificed time, money, effort, etc for so many years. I have so many regrets in my life because my mom has always been so controlling. I prefer to be at work.

It is quite sad that our home is supposed to be our dream home but my husband and I usually stay in our room so we don't feel so depressed and feel stuck whenever we see our parents. Our kids also stay in their rooms.

Thank you for letting me know that I am not alone in feeling so much anger and resentment towards my parents. They're both in good health and we will be stuck with them for another 20 years probably.

I try to be polite to them because I have to be a role model for the kids, but it is hard. Some days I wish they will die soon. And some days I want to run far away because I am stuck. And some days I don't want to live anymore. But my poor husband will be stuck with them.

My grandparents had provided inheritance to my mom and her siblings, but one uncle is very controlling and would not divide the money which rightfully belongs to her anyway for her retirement.

I have so much anger and bitterness. My parents led a good life, my dad left us many years for another Taiwanese woman. They never saved up and expect us to look after them.

My husband likes to travel but I'm scared of bombs. But now I think we should travel more in spite of the risks. It will be a quick death and I won't feel so stuck living with my parents.

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