Anger Out of Nowhere .....

by Lynn
(USA)

To have once had great communication 2-3 times a day and dinner at my house weekly and to have your 84 year old mother all of a sudden stop communication, tell lies, refuse to talk to you, vicious and mean response to any text or presents given, and to not talk to you for six months.


Plus turning a couple of situations where she lost control and put it off as it was I who lost control. Heartbreaking .....and concerned that something else might be going on.

I've contacted her doctors. My father is covering for her and will not talk to doctors in fear of having to deal with her rage and mean spirited behavior. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

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by: Anonymous

Sounds too familiar and thanks for the feedback as I feel we are headed in that direction. Trying to take one step at a time as getting her to take medication will not be easy.

She recently has been much better. Not sure what the difference is but she's much more herself. Did you have long stretches of time where the behaviors subsided?

I empathize with you as I know the pain of dealing with the behavior and I can't imagine living in the same house. I'm more worried about my dad. Thanks Again....

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by: Anonymous

Thanks to the may need medication comment. I agree and hope Doctors can convince her of this as she is does not like taking medication.

If she had the right care she wouldn't have the family and social issues that have come up since the change in behavior. Thanks again!

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by: Anonymous

My 84 year old mother, diagnosed with Alzheimer's, became increasingly unreasonable and it was very upsetting. I tried my very best to try to keep her happy and normal, I even moved in with her and took care of everything, but there was no way to get it right.

I eventually had to make the decision to move her into an assisted living community because my life was hell dealing with her anger and outbursts.

Immediately upon her moving in to the facility, she showed aggressive behavior which was not acceptable in that common living situation.

The facility recommended a medical intervention at a special geriatric hospital where my mother was given medications that got her mood manageable.

She has been pleasant now for over a year.

I would never have believed that I would agree with the use of drugs, but only if you have been through the living hell of uncontrollable behavior ruining your life can you see it is a viable option.

Perhaps if she had been on the right medication I could have kept her at home longer. However, it was exhausting for me to try to juggle everything.

Best of luck to you.

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