Anger and Crying

by Lucy
(England)

Since my dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's and Alzheimer's he has become very dependent on my mum as he can fall anytime and is very unsteady on his feet, also needs help getting dressed and going to bed.


He also has become semi incontinent, needs nappies as he pees a lot and can't get to the toilet in time.

My mother and father have a lot of help from the family anything they need or want, we take care of. My sister has become the carer for my dad and comes in most days to help clean the house and do the shopping. My mother has started to resent her and is very jealous of my dad, cries about herself and says that we love dad more then her.

I try to bring her out shopping and out for lunch as much as I can, also take dad out when I can to give her a break. She is not happy and shouts at him and ridicules him all the time saying he is pretending to be sick and she is worse and needs more attention then him.

Feels like 2 children trying to get attention, the worst thing is although he shouldn't be left alone she will go out and leave him alone for hours and she does this when she knows we aren't around to care for him.

It is very hard to deal with her and she won't listen to us about leaving him on his own,saying he's fine, we are all getting fed up now and feel like she always miserable and never happy no matter what we do.

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