Am the Daughter-in-Law who's Expected to Take Care of my Husband's Old and Dependent Parents
by Distressed Daughter-in-Law
I come from a culture where elderly parents live with their son and daughter-in-law and are looked after by them. Also, my husband did make it clear that they would live with us before we got married. So I was mentally prepared for it.
What I was not prepared for was their lack of appreciation, their complaints with the food....I cook (most of the time, only for them), my husband's siblings' dissatisfaction with my caregiving quality, my in-laws tremendous love and emotional dependence on their older son who judges me, criticizes my cooking skills and who refuses to keep my in-laws with him on the pretext that they lived with them for 7 years and now it's our turn!
More than anything else, I'm surprised with my own low tolerance levels, feelings of resentment against my in-laws and my rudeness - cause there are times when I'm very, very rude to them, saying things like I'm their unpaid servant and I resent having to change diapers and doing other similar stuff. I hate my situation!