Am I an Enabler?
Mom moved from her house into my home 14 months ago. It was just for a three day visit. I turned my home upside down to please her. I am in full blown menopause and sometimes I say the most awful things to her, well it's not that it's awful, what child ever feels right telling their mom what to do when they are the ones that raised you not to talk back.
I have to tell her I will not be her maid because she is quite capable. She acts all sullen and tries to get everyone to feel sorry for her. Now my younger sister and I aren't even taking because all the drama she creates.
I really think she knows how manipulating she is. I am so tired of kissing her ass, but I can't ask her to leave. I know it would be best for everybody, but my family is falling apart. Am I enabling her to lose her independence? I don't know. AGAIN NO EMOTIONAL SUPPORT FROM ANYONE! My other sister stays removed from the situation and only needs mom's money.
Sorry, got off track, I am sleep deprived because I gave my room to my mom. I want to know when and if she plans to go back to her beautiful house because I need to add on another room to my house if she stays.
She complains every day about my house and wants things cleaner, newer, etc. My sleep habits are very unhealthy. What sleep? ha ha The end.