Always Mad

by Bittersweet
(Massachusetts)

Frankly I'm amazed I got through Thanksgiving without a fight with dear old mom. She's 91 and lives with me. She likes to take over and treat my house like it's hers. You know that type?


It was Saturday after Thanksgiving and she was getting ready to go to a friends house for a birthday party for their daughter.

My mother commented that she didn't really want to go so I responded, "Ma, if you don't want to go, don't go." She snapped back at me, "Oh, stop it." I'm like, what the hell did I say?

I was trying to be supportive. But she took it as I didn't want to take her to the party. So now she's not talking to me, but frankly, I like it.

I don't have to listen to her go on an on about nothing. Does anyone else have a mother who gets mad at the drop of a hat and then gives the silent treatment? I'm sick of it. She makes my home life miserable. I'm happier at work!

I've been putting up with this for 10 long years. My 3 brothers are no help AT ALL. I have no one to turn to as everyone has passed away that could be supportive. I'm stuck in this merry go round of misery until she dies.

Please tell me I'm not alone!

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I feel your pain
by: Bittersweet

I know what you mean about being treated like you're 12. I'm 60 years old and she feels it necessary to tell me the simplest of things, like the other day I put rice in boiling water to cook and she told me, "You have to stir that". Really Ma...no kidding? Gee thanks for that.

Good thing you were here to tell me or I would never have known. She thinks I'm an idiot. But funny, she didn't mind asking me if she could live with me. I'm not too stupid for that.

Frankly, I wish I had never let her through the door. God, I fantasize about the day she finally dies and I can have my life back.

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SO Not Alone
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You are in a much worse position that I am, because my mother doesn't live with me. I couldn't bear it.

She smokes, she talks nonstop, and she treats me like I'm 12. Example: last night she called and asked me to get her new slippers (it was the fifth call of the day). I said okay, what kind? "You know what kind. I think you're old enough by now to make that decision." Friend(s), I'm 64.

I *crave* those days when she's mad at me and my phone doesn't ring. Since she can't hold onto a single thought for more than a second these days, those angry spells don't last long anymore, and she'll be back on the phone.

Sometimes I get as many as 10-12 calls in an evening. If I'm in the shower or away from the phone, she'll call my cell phone. If I don't answer that, she'll call the home phone again and leave me a crabby message asking how she's supposed to get in touch with me in case of emergency.

I had a dream about her last week--the first I've had of her featuring a gummy mind--and she strangled me. I thought it was rather symbolic. Her constant need for contact makes me feel like I'm being smothered.

I can't even complain that other siblings don't help. I'm an only child.

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