Alone without Family Assistance

by Arthea
(Pasadena, CA)

I am the sole remaining child of two elderly parents (88 and 89). One with progressive dementia and one who is bedridden and fairly passive.

I have recently moved them into an assisted living facility but after a month, it looks as though my father will be kicked out for basic dementia symptoms. I am also in the midst of trying to get their home of 35 years ready to sell so that there's money to pay for their care.

All of this happens by myself on weekends as I live 2 hours away and have no family to help. I've been living like this for 2 years now and am at my wits' end. My parents are both very religious and are happy to go be with the Lord. I feel guilty, but I often with the Lord would just taken them and be done with it.

Every aspect of my life is impacted and I no longer have time to spend with friends, have trouble concentrating at work, and don't enjoy anything anymore. My responsibilities keep me from pursuing what supports there may be out there because I'm not in the town I live in when others are free. I wonder when all this is said and done, will there be anything left for me?

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Lonely Senior
by: Anonymous

I am a 66 year old woman who has no family support- both my parents are diseased - i divorced after being married 30 yrs. My only brother lives in NY. I do have a daughter, 2 grand kids who live in another state rarely contact me.

Going Solo
by: Anonymous

Hi, I just read your comment and can't express to you how much I feel your hurt, anger and frustration.

I was in the same position for 11 years, now both parents are gone and life without a family is unspeakable. It seems there is no where to turn...except faith...

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