Alone & Scared
My Mom is 93 now. I've been with her in her home for 2 1/2 years. I have an older sister that has refused to help unless I go somewhere like a vacation for visit with family.
I am 62. I was married but my husband divorced me 2 years ago. I came to help my sister take care of Mom. She was here with Mom for a year before me and when her X-husband (she was back living with again) became ill with cancer, I stepped up. He passed away last November, 2014.
When I was married, I didn't work out of the home. I had a small personal hobby business I did online & worked for a company part time designing items for computer programs they sell. I still have this business & part time job going today, but the income is not enough to make a living on.
Since I've been taking care of my Mom, back in 2013, her SS checks pays for all household needs & bills. I pay for my own personal needs myself.
My sister is also on SS and gets a monthly income. I haven't worked long enough yet to be able to receive SS when I become eligible. It's been said that I will have to work another 10 years to be able to collect the minimal amount. I can't go out and work because I'm taking care of Mom.
I can't make my sister understand this, but she thinks I have it made being I don't have to pay bills & I have a roof over my head.
She needs to understand that after Mom passes away (and that could be years from now), what's going to happen to me for my future? Who's going to hire someone my age? How will I pay bills to live?
My sister has been quoted to say it is "her time" to take care of herself. She hasn't called Mom or even come to visit her.
She has a FB page and posts sayings like our Mom is already dead! She's living her life as if she has no obligations or responsibility to anyone or no one.
What am I suppose to do? I don't know what to do. I have no friends left, no family members who call or visit just to see if we need anything.
We spend holidays alone. I'm scared. I'm depressed, human deprived & we are totally ignored. It's not natural, loving or Godly to be left alone.
Time is like black eternity,