Alone in Az

by Lee
(Peoria)

My siblings pretend to have no money to help ensure our parents can stay in a nice apartment with assistance. The siblings go on vacations, several per year, and still maintain they have no funds for helping mom and dad in their last years.


Instead, they want me to do the paperwork to put my parents on state assistance. I do believe the states should collectively go after resources of adult children in state homes.

It is unfair to leave it all up to one adult child and often, as in my case, leads to severe stress and illness on the part of the person who is stuck with all the coordination and financial concerns.

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Me too
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel. My siblings go on vacation constantly too. I feel like Cinderella. All I do is work and live at poverty level. I guess it is survival of the most selfish.

I feel like I must be paying for something I did in a past life the way I get no relief while others around me live it up. Strange and unfair. But what to do but carry on. The mother needs diaper changed now and that is what matters to me.

Good luck to all of us.

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