Alone in Az
My siblings pretend to have no money to help ensure our parents can stay in a nice apartment with assistance. The siblings go on vacations, several per year, and still maintain they have no funds for helping mom and dad in their last years.
Instead, they want me to do the paperwork to put my parents on state assistance. I do believe the states should collectively go after resources of adult children in state homes.
It is unfair to leave it all up to one adult child and often, as in my case, leads to severe stress and illness on the part of the person who is stuck with all the coordination and financial concerns.