by Daughter of a Bully
I helped Dad care for Mom for almost 10 years. She suffered and died from Dementia last year.
I thought my life would begin again but now Dad has some unknown illness and I am all that is left so again I am the caregiver.
His other daughter whom I refuse to call my sister, abandoned us almost 25 years ago without warning. Only heard from her once or twice when she needed something. She wasn't there for Mom alive or her death.
My father is extremely bitter. He has never been an emotional man but now he is always telling me how I am worth nothing, stupid, and constantly threatens to disinherit me because he doesn't like my lifestyle. What life??!!
My life stopped when I started caring for Mom and now left to care for him. All I do is go to work and rush home which I have to clean all three levels or he would live in filth. There are no shortage if reminders that it is HIS house that I am expected to keep up.
He is always angry about something and finds a way to blame me. I cry every day because even at 45 years old, it still hurts despite the fact that this is how I grew up.
When I tell him it is best we live separately and I can care for him from a distance he threatens to burn the house down with him in it.
So here I am again. Stuck. He is 80 years old, doesn't drive and has no friends. What am I to do. Don't even think of mentioning home care!!!
I cry every day except when I am at work.
He is the most selfish, brutal bully ever. Even when Mom was alive and when she became sick. But now it is completely out of control. The verbal and emotional attacks are worse than anything any caregiver, especially a DAUGHTER who has given up her life to be that caregiver since there is no one else, should have to endure.
I don 't know what to do and I am at the point that I don't care anymore .