Advice for Handling Older Arrogant Brother
I need advice on how to get along with my hateful brother. I am the youngest(brother is 4 years
older). My brother has never had a job. My Dad has a cattle farm & he pays my brother to take
care of it.
I know farming is a hard job, but my parents have not only paid my brother a salary.
They have bought land...WITH him, but I know
they've paid most of it.
My brother has always been self employed, punching his own time clock so he never learned how to get along with anybody. He lives a mile away from my Dad, so it is convenient for brother to take care of Dad.
I live 2 hours away & I am the primary care giver for my 21 year old Mentally Challenged/ Autistic/Epileptic son. I worked 31 yr s as an Elementary Ed Teacher.
Now I am retired, but have to care for my child. So my brother takes care of my Dad, but does not live with Dad.
My son & I try to go visit Dad every couple of weeks. I buy groceries & cook a lot while also bringing homemade food from my freezer. I stay 2 days & 1 night, & stay busy cleaning dirty house
My brother brings my Dad his mess 2x a day, but he does not clean up or cook for Dad.
Recently my health has become bad. I am having neck surgery soon for degenerative Disc disease & unstable bones in my neck, so I am suppose to take it easy.
Any fall or car wreck...Could easily shift my neck & pinch or cut my spinal cord. I have to be VERY CAREFUL, so I will be unable to clean Dad's house...I plan to cook & take food. My brother does not want me to come because my visit might " disrupt Dad's schedule.
But my brother will not clean up Dad's house and he WILL NOT hire anybody to help.
I have been asking my brother to hire someone, but he never does so I end up doing the housework. But for now before and after my surgery, I will not be able to help Dad.
How can I get my brother to allow me to give Dad his medications...During my visit to give my brother a Break, but my brother will not allow it.
He does not think I have enough sense to give medications. Last year he accused me of trying to POISON DAD!
Help, how can I get along with my brother?