A Generational or Gender Issue?
I'm the fourth of five sons, with a 94 year old mother presently an independent retiree, though health issues are seeing her ability to cope diminish fairly quickly.
For years I've tried to get "the boys" to behave like adults, communicate with each other, consult and discuss Mum's concerns, the idea being to improve her situation and provide essential emotional and social support.
When Dad passed away three years ago, the response of the youngest son was, why don't we take turns at ringing her once a week. That's one call per month. Pathetic, isn't it.
I queried the wisdom of this economy of communication, and the response was: she's the one who will have to make some adjustments.
As it happened, he was right, and along with grieving the loss of her loved one, she had to learn to live with very minimal support from her sons, lower her expectations, hide her real feelings, and break down in private, her only solace was her Bible and her faith.
Having flicked down the entries on this site, I am saddened that there is so much of this around, and to me it seems as much to be a generational as it is no doubt a gender issue.
Where is the love, compassion and understanding? What happened to the children of the sixties raised on Love and the Beatles? What happened to principles of democracy and compassion as the foundation for sibling relations?