A Brother and an Old Parent

by eric
(philippines)

Some people only have to take care of one sick person. Me, I happen to have to take care of two: one (1) a bedridden, alcoholic, abandoned by his wife and children, sick brother, (2) an 87 year-old mother. Plus, for the upkeep of our home and expenses, I have to tend a small store.


I just wish that it was only my mother I have to take care of. I can't ask my other brother for physical help (who also is a family man, and definitely not rich) who lives too far away from us.

I also have a married sister with 3 children (2 of whom are still studying). My mother takes 6 kinds of drugs for her hypertension and heart ailment. And I have to watch the time schedule of her taking the drug. I have to admit that sometimes I forget or miss it, especially if I am attending to the bedridden brother.

I'm 60 years old, male, unmarried. I'm of small build and that's why I tire easily, emotionally and physically. I am trying to cope with fatigue and emotional guilt. But, sometimes I freak out by shouting at the patient and kicking things around.

I also pray to God to help me cope. I even ask a pastor friend to pray for me unceasingly. I live in the 3rd world Philippines, where hospital care giving services is only for the rich. But I keep telling myself that God sees it all, and I'm not the only one undergoing this kind of stress.

Where can most poor people go but kneel down and pray to God. I won't ask any of you for financial support- but only this- Pray for us.

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I Hear You Eric in the Philippines
by: Anonymous

I feel your pain and I hear your cry. I live in the U.S. surrounded by hospitals and all kinds of help and I still freak out! Instead of kicking, I want to throw things! I have even cried out to God telling Him, no more!

I look back and things that I didn't at the time think that I would make it through...guess what I made it through! Don't get me wrong, I hate what I'm having to deal with.I have siblings who help, but I carry the biggest load.

But, I have one who seems to do nothing but cause problems as if there needs to be more. But the one thing that I am slowly, painfully, but surely learning is that God is using what I'm going through right now to strengthen me and build my character, because He loves me and has a plan for my life.

He has a plan for you as well, Eric because you believe in Him. As hard as it is, trust Him. I am speaking to myself as well as you. Trust Him Eric and don't feel guilty, we're only human! I'll pray for you!

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