93 Year Old Grandmother in Law is Making Me go Crazy

Seven months ago my grandmother in law moved in with us. Things were going decent until we went on vacation and left her with our adult kids. She said we left her there to die. Since that point she has starry showing her bitterness, very opinionated and obsessive of my husband. She tells me what flowers to plant,I’m doing things wrong, what colors to paint my porch,too much stuff in my house etc.


I am becoming very bitter and complain about her all the time because she is driving me crazy! She is demanding to go to my sisters house with us for Christmas.

It just happens to be 13 hours away so that’s not happening. Her doctor said she cannot travel. She says she doesn’t care what they say; she will do what she wants. She wants to see things before she dies.( she has been to places I never have) She wants us to take her out all the time.

Wants to do the things my husband and I do. She doesn’t get it that she can’t do that stuff and we need space. The biggest kicker is she has become obsessed with my husband.

She says how lonely she is all day (even when she has company for hours), I miss you so much, paces the house if he is not gone on time, wants to spend every second with him and go everywhere with him. No one can say anything except him. We are all sassy if we speak.

Actually we have to write everything, because she is deaf. When we took her with us to visit family for Thanksgiving she demanded to leave after we ate.

She wants to do stuff with us, but doesn’t like that we stay places more than an hour. My husband is getting ready to go out of town for a week and I don’t think I can handle this lady!

She is driving me crazy and I feel like I’m losing everything I have in my life, my job and my relationship with my husband. I never realized she would be so opinionated and bitter. I have given up everything and now I am paying the price. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

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