90 Year Old Father and 2nd Wife

by Lois
(Pittsburgh, PA)

My mother died 26 years ago. My father took care of her until he hooked up with the cleaning lady arranged by my older sister.


She covered up for my father until my mother passed some months later. My father married the cleaning lady...they have been married 28 years.

Now my father is 90 years old with failing health and now his wife is doing the same to him. She is 80 years old with a lot of money and states she is overwhelmed with care giving and makes my father feel like a burden.

My 2 brothers and sister hate her and washed their hands of her and also of my father because he never defended them to her.

I feel alone in respect that he is our father...he helped to bring us in this world, changed our diapers, provided for us, provided a nice house to live in, gave us an education, helped us financially and now when we need to come together for him, they become self centered and selfish.

They turned on me and I cannot stand the lack of disrespect.

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