64 and Losing my Husband Slowly

by Anonymous

I've been married 14 years to a wonderful man. He knew when he met me that my mom lives with me. She was good natured and they got along. I'm an only child and here comes the guilt. Two years ago I was given 3 hours to live from Sepsis dye to lymphoma. At the same time my mom who was 85 started with dementia. My husband took care of her while I was slowly slipping away.

Short story obviously I made it after almost two months in the hospital and rehab. I still have trouble walking and use a cane and a 3 wheeler when we go long distance.

My mom who is 87 doesn't want to be alone ever!! She has enough mind left that she knows what's going on but forgets in a second.

My husband is getting sort of depressed with his life as he says sucks!! I too feel the same way. We can't leave the house not for 5 minutes. We tried staying in the bedroom to see what she would do if left alone.

She went room by room with her walker yelling anybody here I'm all alone. She opened the front door yelling I'm all alone.

We then came out and tried to explain you would be okay by yourself just stay in your room and watch TV if we weren't here. No way she said. Your not going anywhere without me!
I tried an adult day care and it didn't work she's non social.

We need a break, I'm afraid I'm going to lose my husband and I don't want to yet can't blame him.
Any suggestions?

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