60 Year Old Taking Care of 90 Year Old
I am a 62-year-old daughter attempting to take care of my 94-year-old Mom. We live together. My very loyal cook/housekeeper, who is more a friend than a hired help, helps me look after my mother.
Mom, by God's grace, is healthy and fairly independent, in that she does most of her personal care tasks herself. However, her cognitive health is clearly declining.
She is also displaying other signs of old age; disoriented, afraid of being alone, afraid of dying, clingy, very suspicious, selfish, jealous and childishly unreasonable.
Tragically, she pretends to be, or actually is, innocently bewildered when I loose my cool and shout at her and always enquires of me as to what is wrong. This infuriates me even more and I get badly stressed.
I am suffering from cervical spondylosis for a while and my present circumstance had only served to worsen the ailment.
I find I am losing interest in other activities as well. To compound matters, I follow a Buddhist practice that requires me to encourage and motivate, on a daily basis, co-practitioners to overcome their own challenges. The toll this takes on my mental well-being is enormous.
I seriously believe that very soon I will need medical treatment for a nervous breakdown! I certainly do not desire to come to such a sorry pass!
I need urgent help and advice on how to handle my situation intelligently.