16yrs of Elderly care with NO HELP

by AreDee
(Oregon)

I came back home in 2004 to help my dad as he had cancer, he eventually passed away few years later. Well here I am am in 2020 still at home taking care of my 98yr old mom, 16 years of elderly care. I have lost interest in everything. Now to top this off, I was married last Oct 2019 in the Philippines.


Have not seen my wife for 12 months. Mom fell and broke her hip as I have a trip planned for Sept 2020. This trip has been cancelled 3 times due to covid. I finally get a chance to go see my wife but my sister who lives here tells me I cant because I need to stay back and take care of mom - she refuses to help. I need a break and will goto the Philippines weather she likes it or not as I need some space and time with my wife.

So I am being called self centered, only thinking of my self and no one else, which is not true. Bad things are being said about me because I will continue on with my planned journey.

I just do not care right now as I know when I get back it will be 24hr care...........is anyone else going thru anything like this themselves? wow I am 66 going on 67, was married at 65. I want to see my wife and that's all there is too it....

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